The pandemic also provided some perspective to problems Frank was having in his life, as it did to everyone. But though it made any issues look smaller, he soon found it also didn’t solve them.
“All of those problems that we had suddenly felt really paltry in comparison to what was going on,” he says. “And yet I was still fucking single. I was like, ‘Well, this still hurts. This is still a problem in my fucking life that I'm having to deal with every day. I can't get this shit right, you know?' How are you supposed to be on the dating app when you're in a global pandemic? And I’m co-parenting as well, which is hard, because you might have different views on what is and isn't acceptable on where to take your daughter or not.”
Though the pandemic didn’t happen in a vacuum, the isolation and loneliness it instilled did make people feel as though they were living in one. Without human contact on a basic level, the worries and fears and dark thoughts have more of a chance to oscillate in the head, rather than being defused. It’s hard to have a Blitz spirit when you’re not allowed to find strength in numbers. Instead, weeds grow, and seeds of distrust have been allowed to blossom through separation, even though everyone’s been under the same weight. “People’s mental health,” sighs Frank, “has taken a fucking battering.”
“We're still seeing the trail of destruction,” he adds. “Things happen, and the impact is immediate, but the devastation is cancerous. It grows. Usually, human connection and social interaction are the things that help dissipate that, because you talk and you communicate. Whether you're talking about trauma, whether this has happened to you or not, you're around people that make you laugh and feel better and lighter about life. None of that existed. In order to have any of those moments, you had to really reach out to people and say, ‘Do you want to get on the phone and have a laugh?’ And the hardest thing to do when you're down is to have the energy to reach out and say, ‘I need to fucking talk.’”